We bring you the ins and outs of an emerging sexual trend
Mainstream society often associates men who fall on the receiving end of anal sex with the homosexual community. But research shows that an increasing amount of straight guys are showing an interest in experimenting with this kind of play. Enter pegging, a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating him with a strap-on dildo. Based on pop culture’s newfound obsession with the act (thanks, Broad City), it’s safe to say that pegging is now officially on the map. It’s even got its own Wikipedia page. Still, there are questions. Does it actually feel good? Do women really enjoy it? Will it compromise my manhood? Check out our expert guide to pegging below, where we provide answers to these inquiries, and more.
What’s the point?
For many men, sex begins and ends with the penis. It’s the most obvious organ associated with the act. And it’s proven to be pretty reliable means by which guys can secure an orgasm. According to the Kinsey Institute, straight men are most likely to orgasm when sex includes vaginal intercourse. Unfortunately, the same can’t be said of women. But that’s a story for another day.
Of course, the penis contains a lot erogenous areas. There’s the shaft, the glans, the foreskin and the frenulum. That’s a lot of territory to keep you occupied. But those daring to venture even further south will discover another powerful pleasure center exists, one that’s located *inside* of the body.
The prostate is located about 3-4 inches from the beginning of the anal canal. You can locate it by inserting a finger (or two) into the anus, inching towards the front wall of the rectum. Performing the “come hither” motion typically helps you find your mark. If you’re turned on, it should be pretty easy to catch. The prostate swells during arousal. It’s a squishy, walnut sized gland and it’s packed with sensory nerve endings. Stimulating the area has been associated with a sensation comparable to that which women experience through a G-spot orgasm. For this reason, it’s often referred to as “the P-spot.” While it’s possible to locate the prostate externally via the perineum (the sensitive stretch of skin located between the testicles and the anus) penetration will provide a more intense interaction with the area.
Now, here’s the other thing about prostate-assisted orgasms: they don’t necessarily inspire ejaculation. That means they don’t require any sort of refractory period, or the time it takes men to get aroused again after climax. And that can help bring guys one step closer to the holy grail of sexual sports: multiple orgasms.
Of course, pegging isn’t only about prostate play. Plenty of people entertain some sort of external play before the actual penetration begins. Using fingers, toys or tongues to sweep across the anus can be incredibly stimulating. That’s because the area and its surrounding tissue are plenty packed with some pretty powerful nerve endings of their own.
What Do I Need To Prepare?
Pegging requires three main tools: a harness, a dildo and some good lubrication. It’s important to consider your partner’s body type before choosing a harness. Some are better equipped to accommodate larger sizes than others. It might also be worth looking into harnesses designed to accommodate a vibrator. That kind of stimulation will help enhance her pleasure during the pegging process. When selecting a dildo, it’s important to be mindful of size. Beginners might want to stick to something reasonably small, and work their way up from there. Those who want to experiment with different dildo sizes should look for a harness with an interchangeable O-ring, the part that stations the dildo in place.
Different dildos are made from different materials. All can be used safely with a water-based lubricant. Silicone lube should not be used with silicone toys. Combining the two can degrade the material. Oil-based lubricants can be damaging to toys made from rubber or latex.
Once you get the equipment down, the only thing left to do is prepare yourself both mentally and physically. Perhaps some meditation can help calm you down before the act. If you’re worried about the potential mess anal play can create, you might want to consider performing a water-enema before you start engaging in any form of play. If your partner intends to use their hands around the anus before penetration begins, you should ask them to trim their fingernails in advance.
What Do Women Get Out Of It?
Being restricted to sexual scripts hampers our ability to enjoy a multitude of sexual experiences. Just as many men want to experience what it’s like to be on the receptive end of penetration, plenty of women want to know what it feels like to be the sexually penetrative partner. Going through this kind of role reversal will give each party a better sense of what their partner normally experiences during sex. That kind of insight can be internalized and applied to secure more pleasurable sexual experiences in the future.
Will It Compromise My Sexuality?
Unless you’re sitting on a closeted desire to experience sex with a man, heterosexual anal sex will not have any affect on your sexuality. This mode of thinking is the product of internalized homophobia. What pegging will do is challenge the conventions that exist around sex and gender. Of course, there are some kinksters that will take pegging into more extreme territory. Sissification and forced feminization are celebrated practices within certain BDSM communities. Much more common, however, is for pegging to take place outside of this community, between individuals who may indulge in the occasional strap-on session alongside other vanilla forms of sex.