At the end of the day, we’re all looking to lighten our load. Sex has always been a great way to reduce stress. And different kinds of sex are now on the menu. Anal exploration has become an increasingly popular option among straight men (especially when it comes to getting a prostate massage). Of course, the topic isn’t always easy to inject into casual conversation. Some guys get a little touchy about what they do behind closed doors. Others are still living in the shadows of the taboo. But stigmas, be damned! It’s time to talk about why more and more guys are bringing it up the rear.
What’s In A Name?
In 1998, the celebrated sexologist Carol Queen released “Bend Over Boyfriend,” a sexy series of educational videos detailing the ins and outs of strap-on play. Fast-forward to 2001, and the practice had become so popular that Dan Savage, syndicated sex columnist at The Stranger and host of the popular podcast “Savage Love,” held a contest to come up with a name to describe the act. The people eventually went with “pegging.” Sometimes, you’ve got to nail the diction before you can open the conversation.
Who’s Doing It?
Pegging has become so popular that it’s officially infiltrated pop culture. In 2015, Broad City aired its infamous Knockoff episode where one of the title characters finally gets the guy she’s been after into bed. Then he pulls out a strap-on and asks her to put it “right in the butt.” Though initially hesitant, she complies. In 2016, the sci-fi flick Deadpool hits the big screen. Peppered into the action is a short nod to – you guessed it – pegging. We see the male protagonist naked and on all fours. The female lead is kneeling behind him. She whispers “Happy International Women’s Day” before tightening her harness and going in. Of course, what goes down on screen is largely inspired by what goes on in real life. Try typing “pegging” into Google and you’ll be met with a litany of hits. There are tons of porn sites, blogs and social sharing apps specifically designed for those with a penchant for pegging.
How Does It Feel?
Talking about pegging is one thing. Practicing it is another. Those willing to test things out might be happy to hear that their efforts are often rewarded in highly orgasmic ways. We’ve all heard about the G-spot, the pleasure point zone located just underneath the front vaginal wall. Well, turns out that men possess a similar spot. It’s called the prostate, and the best way to find it is by going up the butt. The “P-spot” is located about two inches below the rectum, toward the scrotum. If you’re looking feel it out for yourself, try lubing up a finger and going deep. Be on the lookout for a acorn-sized ball. That’s your target. Once you find it, move your finger(s) in a “come hither” motion, going towards the naval. Climax, and repeat.
What Accessories Do I Need?
To get things started with a partner, however, it’s important to know what you need. Equipment is essential. In order to get pegged properly, you’re going to need lots of lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus isn’t able to self-lubricate. From there, you’ll need to land a solid strap-on harness and a good dildo. If you’re a beginner, you might want to err on the side of caution. Choosing the wrong size might get uncomfortable. Some sex experts suggest selecting a dildo with a slightly curve to it. That will allow you to access the prostate with more precision.
What’s Important About A Power Exchange?
There are plenty of reasons to get pegged that extend beyond pleasure. While it’s slowly changing, most men are expected to get rich or, quite simply, die trying. Being assigned the provider, the breadwinner, “the man of the house” can be exhausting. Sometimes, you want to kick off your shoes and relax. Sometimes, you want someone else to take charge. Sometimes, you don’t want to fuck. Sometimes, you want to get fucked. And hey, it goes both ways. Sometimes, women want to wear the dick.